Recently, a friend mentioned that I always have the last word. I have been thinking about what he said and trying not to, at least with him anyway. If he mentioned it, it must bother him. I respect him and our friendship so if not having the last word is important to him and does not negatively affect my life or inconvenience me, happy to try and curb the urge.
What's the big deal? |
I realized it was my way of having closure on a conversation and to me, I thought I was being polite. He would text me or call me and the conversation would often hang or end with a 'good night', 'talk to you later', 'see you in a minute', etc. Naturally, I would respond with an "okay", "ttyl" or if the conversation just hung out there like text messages often do.... I would respond in an effort to end the conversation. Apparently, this is considered having the last word. In some instances I would text him to say.....don't leave me hanging or else I will have the last word. This would usually produce a chuckle. Fun times.
My self awareness led me to a new discovery and ultimately wanting to know: What's the Big Deal with Having the Last Word. I want to hear your feedback. What do you think about having the last word? Why is it such a stigma and what is wrong with "ending a conversation?"
Very interesting...I like to make sure that it is understood and sometimes people stop talking and stop listening...I know I do!
ReplyDeleteGreat post and food for thought. I think there is a difference between 'wanting' to have the last word as in wanting to be right and the excitement of sharing and conversing.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely Karin good point there is a difference between wanting it and not wanting the the last word. Interestingly, so many assume the latter.
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